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Superwoman, Yes, I’m Talking to You

As Black women, we’ve spent our lives witnessing our mothers, matriarchs and mentors be strong and sturdy, like rocks. And we aspire to be like them daily.

We frequently hear from our families and friends. “You’re strong,” or “you’ve been through storms before,” or “you just have to pray and trust God.”

You probably have five tabs open on your browser, (BTW, I have a solution for that), a bazillion emails that require responses, errands to run, functions to attend, appointments to keep, gym time to log (wait, you haven’t been to the gym?), a demanding family and a Boss to answer to. And a long list of to do’s that goes on for ever and ever and ever.

If only you had some time.

But, you don’t have time for anything.

In fact, you barely have time to read this. (And I barely had time to write it.)

At what point did our lives turn into a never-ending to do list, where the work is never done and we are never done?

And at what point did we become okay with it?–

Well guess what, you’re not superwoman.

Your physical and mental health is important.

You need to take care of you, before you can take care of others.

The peculiar thing about doing the work to uplift others is, the world often forgets that you also need uplifting, and the weight becomes heavy.

Self-care is a divine responsibility.

Since there’s always going to be something else to do, forever and ever, it’s logical to conclude that it’s impossible to ever get everything done.

Superwoman. Take several seats. Put down your cape.

Yes, I’m talking to you.



Stop doing things on autopilot. Stop obligating yourself more than anyone deserves. Stop being at the beck and call of every “Hey (Insert Your Name Here), I need…, tweet, message and whim.

Success doesn’t come from a “To Do” list.

Success comes from a “Stop Doing” list.

Don’t those words feel glorious?

Well, try this:

Everybody needs a “Stop Doing” List.

Including You + Me

I will stop:
1. Skipping breakfast
2. Checking emails more than 2x a day
3. Missing sunsets
4. Making your urgency my emergency
5. Saying yes if it’s not a hayle yes
6. Performing tasks that can be delegated or outsourced.
7. Giving time to people who won’t grow
8. Waiting for Denzel to leave Paulette. Denzel, your time is up.
9. Taking early morning international flights
10. Giving discounts. On My Time + Services
11. Going to bed after midnight

Now, what will you stop doing? Like, right away.
Commit to it.

For bonus Karmic points: Encourage another Sister to join the “Stop Doing” revolution and share this post with them.
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This Girls Trip Completely Changed My Life

My life completely changed when I traveled with 100 bad ass spiritual women to the Middle East last year. I’m talking going from eating regular meals to eating 24K gold. Literally. BTW, I increased my rates when I returned to the states. Living like a Queen in a 5-star resort hotel will do that to you.

We went behind the scenes of Etihad Airways on a special VIP tour to see how a multi-billion dollar corporation operates. They even allowed some of my non-driving sisters to sit in the cockpit of the Airbus 360 simulator. It was epic.

We visited the Emirates Autism Center and played with the children. We left a donation and got bonus karmic points.

But most of all, when you’re around women who force you to up level your game and hold you accountable, you can’t help but become a better version of yourself.

And we played in the desert. Our own private desert safari.

A motorcade of white 4x4s, Camel rides, dune bashing fast and furious, henna painting and belly dancing. Don’t drink the camel milkshakes tho. BBQ buffet. And at the end of the night, we looked to the midnight sky and watched the stars align in our favor. Meet my friend, Bo, the camel. You can see more instaworthy pics on our gram right here.

I know what global travel will do for you and how I have grown. And my income too. So grab your girls, channel your inner wild side and rediscover your purpose and passion on the ultimate Girl Trip of the Year.

When the men have their golf outings and men’s club dinner, well, the women head to the middle east or to Bali, Rome, Ghana, Cuba or Dubai. Yesss, I just rolled out the ultimate girl trips for 2018 and you’re invited.

Because magic happens when women collaborate, connect with other women in other parts of the world.

Get the dish here.
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The Ultimate Girl Trip Is Here

The Ultimate Girl Trip of the Year

Last year, I led a group of 100 bad ass spiritual women to the United Arab Emirates. We hopped on an Airbus 380 jetliner from JFK and Washington/Dulles non-stop to Abu Dhabi. Some call it Abu Dhabi, I call it Abu WOW!  Due to high praise, life-changing transformations, sipping 24K gold, and the power of connecting with women who make you better just being in their presence, we’re going back to the Middle East.  

Dubai & Abu Dhabi

A place every woman should experience at least once or twice in her lifetime. Because sometimes, once just isn’t enough.

It’s all going down January 12-18, 2018.

You don’t have to be Queen Bey to experience luxury.

$129 Deposit is all that’s required to reserve your spot.

Are you joining us or Nah?  Get all the dish and reserve your spot *stat*.

Got questions?  Email

See you in in the air for the coolest girl party you’ve ever experienced.

Oh yeah, the royal prince is not included.



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Traveling Solo? What You Need to Know Before You Go

Save your sanity—and your $$

Going on business trips within the U.S. is one thing, but jetting off by yourself on a trip across the world (either for business or pleasure) is quite another.  It’s truly an empowering experience to see someplace new, on your own terms, without the compromise that’s required when you travel with others. Whether you’re taking a solo trip to explore your roots, close a business deal, or just need a break from the hustle and bustle, you’ll come back with a clearer sense of self and purpose to confidently move forward on your career and life goals. But don’t start packing yet…

As any jet-setting BFF will tell you, traveling alone to other countries has some risks, especially if you’re a woman.

There are pickpockets and thieves, sketchy areas and characters, and what if something major happens? I’ve racked up hundreds of thousands of Frequent Flyer Miles and have successfully navigated through the hazards of solo travel.  These are the extra steps and precautions I take, and you should too when you go on a trip alone– the time and effort are worth it!


Here’s a big heads up: If a travel deal seems like a steal, figure out why the price is so low before you whip out your plastic. Lately, I’ve been hearing girlfriends talk about how insanely low fares are to Mexico, Dominican Republic, Mexico, San Juan, Rio and more, but what they don’t know is that it’s hurricane season.  Think Hurricane Matthew which did major destruction in the Caribbean last year.  The Bahamas and Haiti were devastated.  Fares recently dropped drastically in London and Paris, right after not one but two terrorist attacks.

If it looks too good to be true, it probably is…  Do your research.  Search for alternative dates or destinations.

But just because something is driving down the cost of travel, doesn’t mean you can’t go.

I’ll tell you what you can do to prepare to go overseas and share my insider secrets in my next blog post.

In the meanwhile, share your solo travel experience below in the comments section.
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9 Things You Should Start Doing on Facebook

You can thank me later.

Facebook is a powerful network, whether you use it to connect with family + friends or network with colleagues + potential business partners.

1. Be authentic. People love people who are real and show their true selves. Do not pull a Bow Wow.

2. If you don’t have anything positive to say, keep silent. It’s pretty scary to think, before Facebook, people were walking around with all these thoughts in their head. People are attracted to people who are positive.

3. Social Network Etiquette. Before sending a friend request, send a quick message introducing yourself. Keep it brief. A simple 25-word intro is sufficient. I do not accept every friend request that I receive. Everyone is not your friend. 

4. Keep your posts short and sweet, except when you really have something to say. People are busy. Posts pictures, like the paparazzi. But not the kind your job or future employer will frown upon or the Facebook PoPo will remove if reported. If your posts are 25 words or less, you should probably be on Twitter. 

5. Fundraize/Magnetize Money. I’ve secured tens of thousands of dollars in sponsorships via Facebook but not by begging. Build relationships with the individuals/organizations you wish to work with. Remember, just like any relationship, friendships are built over time.

6. Qualify Sellers. You wouldn’t let a doctor treat you who doesn’t have a medical degree. Before you buy, ask for at least 3 references (this rule still applies). I only buy from people who are experts in their field and have a successful track record to prove it. Be weary of anyone selling you a quick fix.

7. Lean-in! You don’t need a reason to help someone. The real secret of happiness and success lies in giving of yourself to others. When you help people without the expectation of anything in return, you receive favor. There are a ton of charities and great causes on Facebook who can use your help. Helping is not always financial. You can volunteer your time and/or expertise.

8. Expand Your Network. Don’t surround yourself with people who have your problem.  Connect with people who have your solution. Iron sharpens iron. I am continuously ah-mazed to find + connect with so many incredible people on Facebook. Learning is an on-going process throughout the life cycle. Don’t be afraid to ask someone to be your Mentor. Mentors are not just for kids. They’re for the grown + sexy too.

9. Comparison is the thief of joy. Don’t compare yourself to the people you see in the movies. Their life story is written by scriptwriters, yours is written by God.

10. Most people you see on Facebook are in one of 3 stages: Either going through a storm, coming out of a storm or in middle of one. Be kind. Show compassionate and if you see something out of the ordinary or inconsistent, reach out and ask is everything okay. Too many people are suffering in silence. In the end, we’re all here to serve.



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Everything You Need to now About the New Trump Travel Ban to Cuba

From 🙌 to 😱

1.  It sucks.

When the Obama administration allowed to travel to Cuba on individual “people-to-people” trips,  online lodging company Airbnb was allowed into Cuba, and commercial flights between the U.S. and Cuba resumed after more than half a century. As a result, U.S. travel to Cuba roughly tripled by the time Obama left office. U.S. travelers are pumping hundreds of millions of dollars into the restaurants and bed-and-breakfasts that are driving the growth and rebirth of Cuba’s emerging private sector.

Trump rolls back the solo the “people-to-people” education policy.  Meaning no down time by the pool, snorkeling some of the world’s best-preserved coral reefs or lounging on the island’s pristine beaches.  

2. Where there’s a will, there’s a way.  Yes; you can still go, here’s how.

The new policy eliminates individual trips outside of 12 authorized categories. Group travel is allowed.  But, I don’t mean you + your squad = group.  I’m talking licensed tightly regulated group tours.  Expect prices to rise $$$$.   And, Americans will now be subjct to Treasury Department audit with bigly fines issued for violations. Ugh.

Direct U.S. -Cuba commercial flights, and cruise line routes will continue.

3.  The New Regulations haven’t taken effect.  

Travel to Cuba won’t be changing soon. While Trump announced Friday that he is “immediately” canceling Obama’s deal with Cuba, the roll back relies on a presidential memorandum which gives the government 90 days before it even starts to rewrite Cuba travel regulations, meaning it could be many months or a year.  What are you waiting for?  Book your ticket *stat*.

4.  The Cigar Lady ain’t having it.  You can still find her in the City sitting on the steps.  But don’t go at 1pm when she breaks for lunch.  A Lady has to eat, okay?.

5.  Who the world is OFAC?  Any relation to Covfefe?  

Well, kinda, sorta.  The Office of Foreign Assets Control (OFAC) is a division of the US Department of the Treasury, which administers and enforces economic and trade sanctions.

 6.  Don’t stay in Military owned hotels or housing.  Huh?  Yes, it’s a thing.  But don’t do it or you will face a hefty fine.  The Treasury Department is not playing with you.

Much of Cuba’s hotel and tourism industry is run by companies controlled by the Cuban military,  GAESA is the Cuban military’s business and commerce wing. The thing is the company is run by Gen. Luis Alberto Rodríguez López-Callejas, Raul Castro’s son-in-law.  Wait, there’s more.  Gaviota, GAESA’s tourism arm, currently operates the Four Points by Sheraton Havana.  

U.S. citizens will be prohibited from staying in U.S.-based hotels that operate in Cuba in partnership with the Cuban government.

This new, more restrictive policy will surely dampen new economic ties to Cuba. And Cubans who have increased their participation in tourism will especially suffer.  *Tries not to cry, fails*

The good news is there are no plans to change the amount of the island’s rum and cigars that Americans can bring home for personal use.  🙌 🙌 🙌

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Gang of 7


Fifty-one states including the District of Columbia were represented at this year’s Miss USA contest.

7 out of the 51 Contestants were Black.

They were like a really small gang.

They came to slay and wouldn’t go away.

5 made Top 10

1 made Top 3 and took the crown.

Congratulations to Kara McCullough of the District of Columbia on her win as Miss USA 2017.

Kara is only the 9th Black woman to win the title in the pageant’s 75 year history.

One day, the Miss USA national stage will truly represent the diversity of our nation.

Until then, we’ll take the back-to-back, black-to-black win.

Kara succeeds Deshauna Barber who also represented the District of Columbia and slayed an afro during her final walk.  It was everything!

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The Next Level Power Trip for 100 Bad Ass Women to the UAE

A week ago, I led a group of 100 bad ass spiritual women to the United Arab Emirates.  We hopped on an Airbus 380 jetliner from JFK and Washington/Dulles non-stop to Abu Dhabi.  Some call it Abu Dhabi, I call it Abu WOW!

I’m talking hi-tech boss babes, judges, lawyers, doctors, nurses, ministers, savvy business women, congressional staffers, policy experts, fashion gurus and designers.  There was networking across industries and priceless discussions about being a boss, being a brand, being a feminist, and being a rebel.  Mothers brought daughters and daughters brought mothers.  Sisters across the D9 were represented.  That’s how I roll.  

Cooler still, the entire entourage—from the pilots to the ground crew to the photographers—were women. Kinda.  If you count Janetta, Shirley or Lisa who took-over the cockpit of the Dreamliner 777 flight simulator during our VIP behind-the-scenes tour at Etihad headquarters.

What ensued was 5 days of networking, brainstorming, laughing, thinking, and being whisked to some *insane* magical experiences.  On Martin Luther King Jr. Holiday, the women found time to be of service and partnered with the Emirates Autism Center, founded by a remarkable women, Amal Sabry under the patronage of His Highness Sheikh Nahyan Bin Mubarak Al Nahyan.  Before leaving, the Founder, presented me with an amazing art work made by one of the students.

The power trip culminated at our very own private safari camp with a night of fast and furious dune bashing, belly dancing, henna painting, camel riding and a delicious BBQ buffet.  Just before we left the camp in our 4x4s, the lights went out, we looked to the midnight sky as the stars aligned in our favor.

In next week’s blog, I’ll share what I learned spending 5 days with 100 women in the Middle East.  You’ll be surprised at what I have to say! Check back next Wednesday on 2/8.  



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If You Want 2017 To Be Your Year

Take all the crazy experiences and lessons and place them in a box labeled “Thank you!

Be kind, and spread that ish like confetti.

Do something every day for the first time. Like when you were 2.

Shake things up. You weren’t born to be normal.

Show more gratitude.

Don’t sit on the couch and wait for it.

Be a mentor. I mentored 1000, surely you can mentor one.

Take more dance breaks.

Put yourself #1 on your priority list. You owe yourself the love that you so freely give to others.

Laugh more. 7 minutes a day can save your life.

Love fiercely. Forgive quickly.

Know your worth. Up your rate.

Volunteer. When you’re in service of your fellow beings, you’re in the service of your God.

Say Yes to new Adventures. Here’s your invite to join me in South Africa.

Choose your circle closely. Jesus chose His inner circle carefully too.

Faith up.

Practice the pause. When in doubt, pause. When angry, pause. When tired, pause. When stressed, pause. And when you pause, pray.

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Jet-Setter: 7 Beauty Essentials to Pack in Your Travel Bag

Jet set phenoms, take note.

30,000 feet in the air

No Boudoir.   

Whether you’re escaping to hot Dubai, balmy Thailand or chilly Iceland? Either way, there’s no need to say bon voyage to looking your best.

Here’s everything you need besides a plane ticket.

Your go-to beauty essentials to be a flying phenom.  All TSA-approved.

  1. Deodorant – Be prepared to get from A to B and stay your freshest. I love this Milk Makeup natural deodorant that’s roll-on and fits into even the smallest of spaces. Good things do indeed come in small packages.

Milk Makeup Natural Deodorant $14;


  1. The fragrance – I don’t care how much you love your signature fragrance, if a travel-size bottle or sample of it explodes in your bag, you will come to hate it. Trade it in for a solid fragrance housed in a chic compact.

Elizabeth and James Nirvana Black and White Solid Perfume Compacts $48;

  1. Dry Shampoo – Because let’s be real, we’re not washing our hair every day on vacation.  A drugstore gem! It works effectively without breaking the bank.


Garnier Fructis Volume Extend Instant Bodifier Dry Shampoo $6.00;

  1. The term “beauty sleep” has never been more appropriate. A face mask is one of those non-essential essentials that will really make you feel instantly better when you’ve been wandering around a foreign location all day.  Plus, if you don’t have room to pack your go-to night cream, this one will help you wake up with refreshed, dewy skin.


 Origins Drink Up Intensive Overnight Mask $17.00;

  1. Mascara – All mascaras are not created equal.  No need to go sans mascara when you’re 30,000 feet in the air.  Hot mess proof.  Basically it’s perfect.


NYX The Skinny Mascara $7.00;

  1. Facial Cleanser – TLC (tender loving clean).  Gentle Skin Cleansing Cloths will leave your skin feeling fresh and clean – without drying out or disturbing your skin’s natural pH balance.


 Cetaphil® Gentle Skin Cleansing Cloths $3.49;

  1.  Lipstick game = raised.  The pigment rich color glides on effortlessly and easily to provide long lasting color.  Bonus:  Enriched with Vitamin A, C & E formula moisturizes and hydrates the lips.


e.l.f. Matte Lip Color  $3.00;

All for under $100


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